Three factors affecting parent-child communication
1.How parents perceive and explain children’s behavior will affect the communication between parents and children.
Parents Parents put their children in the context of this age group to recognize his behavior.
You should not overcompare with the children of the neighbors, because even the same age children, the individual differences in development are very large.
In addition, the same child’s development in various aspects is also uneven.
A 6-year-old boy may have reached 7 years of intelligence, but he is less than 5 years old.
Maybe he would be a clever naughty bag, and still be in the normal range.
It is important to guide the child from his own starting point and at his own pace.
Any attempt to boost seedlings can only be counterproductive.
“Comparison” is not possible, because the results of “comparison” often cause parents to frustrate and worry first, so that parents can not maintain a peaceful state of mind in the process of educating their children, “gap energy”, and “do not get angry”.
The result must be destructive communication!
2.Parental self-conditions can affect communication with children.
These self-conditions include your self-worth, the environment in which you grew up, your marital status, your ideals, your desires, and especially your immediate emotional state and physical health.
and many more.
If you compare a person’s “self-state” to a “jar”, then what is contained in your “jar” will affect your communication with your children, you and your family.
Pay particular attention to the fact that when your mood is not good, or your physical fatigue increases, you may inadvertently amplify your child’s fault.
Therefore, always paying attention to cleaning up the contents of your “jar” and shrinking the broken objects is an alternative to promote good communication between parents and their families.
3．The communication status between adults in the family, especially between husband and wife, will affect the communication with children.
Generally speaking, the “model” of communication between children and parents comes from the subtle influence of your family’s communication model.
Silent communication actions are far more effective than vocal communication.
If you teach your children to respect their parents (or mothers), then the husband (or wife) has a weight in your heart, and the father (or mother) has a weight in your child’s mind!
Sure, parent-child communication, parents are participants, they are role models.
In the final analysis, how children interact with others is the most fundamental factor in parent-child communication and family communication.
Of course, if you are dissatisfied with your “bottom communication”, it is not entirely your fault. The family you grew up with, your parents are also responsible for you.
But today, we don’t have to pursue the responsibility of the previous generation.
It is important to start from your generation to establish good family communication and parent-child communication.
You may wish to start with the principles of good communication between parents and children that I have introduced.
As long as you study hard and stick to it, your relationship with your parents and your child will obviously improve.
You will find that your family has changed, it has become warm and clear; your child has changed, it has become reasonable, and it has become easy to talk.
The warmth of the family and the good ditch energy of the parents and children will surely achieve a good effect on children’s education.